Curious what Peacekeeper actually does to a message? Here it is, side by side: what was written, what arrives, what gets flagged, and how coaching rewrites a heated draft. The original is always preserved — time-stamped, unedited, and exportable.
Hostile incoming messages are rewritten into their neutral, useful core before they reach you. The original is always preserved — time-stamped, unedited, and exportable if you ever need it.
You never remember to pack their lunches. The kids were starving at school. I need you to actually pay attention for once.
The kids didn't have lunches packed today. Please remember to include lunches when they're with you.
The blame and the "never" are gone. The fact and the request survive.
I can't believe you forgot AGAIN. Anyway, can you pick up Emma at 3pm tomorrow from soccer?
Can you pick up Emma at 3pm tomorrow from soccer?
The jab disappears; the question still gets asked — and answered.
Fine. Whatever. I'll handle it myself like I always do.
I'll handle it.
The sarcasm goes; the commitment stays on the record.
You're a terrible parent and everyone knows it.
Nothing. There was no co-parenting content to deliver.
Purely hostile, with no co-parenting content to preserve — so nothing reaches your inbox. The original still sits on the permanent record, time-stamped, if it's ever needed.
All examples come from the scenario library we use to build and test Peacekeeper — never from real families' messages.
As you type, Peacekeeper highlights the exact phrases likely to escalate — insults, threats, blame, absolutes, profanity, and tone — and explains each one supportively, so you can fix it before anyone else reads it.
You never follow the custody agreement. The kids are always disappointed when you don't show up. Be at the exchange on time this week or I'll be talking to my lawyer.
"Never" turns one missed exchange into a character claim — naming the specific date keeps it factual.
Speaking for the kids' feelings in absolutes raises the temperature without adding information.
Ultimatums invite escalation — a clear, standalone request holds up better.
Emma's dentist appointment is Thursday at 2pm. Can you take her, or should I plan on it?
Ordinary logistics sail through untouched. Peacekeeper flags escalation — it doesn't second-guess normal parenting conversation.
Choose the coaching style that fits your situation. Peacekeeper gives specific feedback and a suggested rewrite grounded in your own words — here's each style working on a real draft.
I can't believe you're trying to change the schedule again after everything we agreed to. Fine, I'll pick up the kids at 3pm but this is getting ridiculous. You always do this.
Coach: The useful commitment is buried under three sentences of frustration. BIFF keeps the one sentence that matters and lets the rest go.
I can pick up the kids at 3pm on Saturday.
Fine, I'll do the drop-off at 5pm even though it's really inconvenient for me and I had other plans. But whatever, I guess my time doesn't matter.
Coach: Every complaint is a handle to grab onto. Grey Rock offers nothing to push against — just the fact.
Drop-off at 5pm works.
You were 20 minutes late again. I'm documenting this for our attorney.
Coach: Announcing that you're building a case reads as combative to the invisible audience — a judge sees the threat, not the lateness. State the fact; make the request.
Pickup was at 5:20pm today. Going forward, please let me know if you'll be delayed so I can plan accordingly.
Emma has a dentist appointment Thursday at 2pm. Also, you still owe me $150 for soccer registration. And your mother called me again — tell her to stop.
Coach: Three topics in one message means the important one gets lost — and the last one isn't a co-parenting topic at all. Send the appointment on its own and log the expense where it belongs.
Emma has a dentist appointment Thursday at 2pm. Can you take her, or should I plan on it?
Coaching, screening, and Calm Delivery are included from your very first message — free while we're in early access.
