BIFF
Brief. Informative. Friendly. Firm.A classic high-conflict communication framework. Coparency suggests rewrites that stay focused, civil, and free of emotional reactivity.
Messaging
Messages that read well in any room.
Every message you send on Coparency is coached, screened, and organized. The result: a record you'd be proud to read aloud — in your living room, your lawyer's office, or a courtroom.
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Compose
Tone analysis before you hit send.
Coparency reads what you're drafting and gently flags language that might escalate — not to judge you, but to give you one more chance to choose calm. You decide what to change; we just make it easy to see.
- Live tone indicator as you type
- Highlights emotionally charged words in context
- Calm-before-send prompt on heated drafts
- Works on web, iOS, and Android
Coaching
Four styles, one steady voice.
Choose from four evidence-based communication styles — BIFF, Grey Rock, Strategic, and On-topic. Coparency offers rewrites in the style you pick, preserving your voice and intent.
- BIFF — Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm
- Grey Rock — minimize emotional surface area
- Strategic — language that reads well in court
- On-topic — keeps the focus on the kids
Protect
Screen incoming messages for hostility.
Every message coming in is analyzed for hostility, urgency, and topic — so you can walk into the thread prepared. Nothing is hidden from you; Peacekeeper just hands you context before the emotional weight lands.
- Hostility and escalation detection on incoming messages
- Urgency classification — urgent messages cut through Calm Delivery
- Automatic topic categorization (logistics, schedule, finance, kids, medical)
- Optional content previews hidden until you're ready
Calm Delivery
You set the notification rhythm.
Receive messages in batches — hourly, twice a day, or on a custom schedule — so your phone stops pulling you out of your life. Urgent messages still come through right away.
- Choose batched delivery (daily, scheduled, or per window)
- Do-not-disturb hours that only urgent messages can cross
- Quiet your phone during parenting time with your kids
- Override per-thread when you need it
Records
An immutable record, always yours.
Every message is logged — read receipts, edits, timestamps — and can be exported for legal or professional review. You own your communication history.
- Tamper-evident messaging log
- Read receipts and edit history
- Exportable transcripts for professionals
- Search and filter by topic, tone, or date
Coaching styles
Four voices that keep you steady.
Choose the style that fits the moment. Coparency coaches you through each one with real-time rewrite suggestions — not generic templates.
Grey Rock
Minimize emotional surface area.Respond in a way that gives nothing to push against — neutral, factual, and unprovokable — while still answering what matters.
Strategic
Reads well in a courtroom.Coaches language that documents reality clearly, avoids inflammatory framing, and holds up if this message is ever read aloud by a judge.
On-topic
Kids at the center.Keeps the conversation focused on the children — drifting away from rehashing the past or personal disputes, back toward logistics and care.
Questions
Frequently asked questions
Send messages you're proud of.
Coaching, screening, and Calm Delivery — included from your first message.