Story | Coparency

BUILT FROM LIVED EXPERIENCE

My Journey Through High-Conflict Divorce

Hi, I’m Matt.

My journey through a high-conflict divorce threatened to consume every aspect of my life—draining my time, energy, and finances, and pulling me away from what mattered most: my kids.

Even while using tools designed for co-parenting, communication remained a constant source of stress. Every message carried weight. Every notification brought uncertainty and fear.

My search for the support I couldn't find is what led me to build Coparency.

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SEARCHING FOR PEACE

Toxic communication never rests.

It wasn’t just the messages themselves that took a toll—it was the space between them. The constant anticipation kept me in a state of high alert, and I learned the hard way that reacting in the moment only fueled the fire.

Finding peace felt impossible. I realized that protecting my emotional health meant establishing firm boundaries and regaining control over my own reactions.

I had to learn to create a necessary buffer between the notification and my response. But breaking that cycle of reactivity wasn't easy; it required constant practice and the right support.

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PARENTING THROUGH CONFLICT

I learned a hard truth: winning an argument never made me a better parent.

Accepting what I couldn’t control—and focusing on what I could—was the key to becoming the father my children needed.

But maintaining that composure in the heat of the moment required more than just willpower.

I needed a system that actively encouraged the high road—allowing me to be present for my kids, not just prepared for the next battle.

WHY I BUILT COPARENCY

Through this journey, I realized that existing co-parenting tools fell short for me. They were excellent at addressing logistics, but they ignored the emotional weight of high-conflict communication. They organized information, but they didn’t provide the sense of safety or support I needed to stay steady and focused on my children.

I built Coparency to fill this gap. It’s the tool I wish I had; designed to help parents protect their emotional well-being, communicate with intention, and keep their children at the center—especially when conflict is high.

GUIDING PRINCIPLES

Children belong outside of conflict.

Calm is a practice, not a personality trait.

Boundaries create stability.

Clarity reduces fear.

Support should empower, not judge.

LOOKING AHEAD

Coparency continues to be shaped by lived experience, thoughtful feedback, and a commitment to child-centered co-parenting.

We invite you to join our journey, so we can help you navigate yours.

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